There is an unfortunate explanation of why happiness—our minds are just not wired that way—is always tricky. Instead, our brains have evolved to thrive, to keep us safe, to defend ourselves. Yes, we have times of exhilaration and cycles of peace and happiness. But most of us are troubled by constant negative emotions—the “blahs” are trapped in us.
How in our lives will we find more joy? Like anything else, maintaining ongoing happiness requires practice. We have to reset the standard in a way. It’s not going to change overnight, but here are the top 7 things you can do to find the secrets of being happier every day.
Concentrate on the positive.
It will help if you retrain your brain from a defeatist mentality to a positive mindset to achieve long-term happiness. Try these things: Spend one to two minutes of your life searching for good things. For 45 days, do this three times a day, and your brain will naturally start doing it.
Choose an optimistic day mantra—something you’re going to say to yourself, such as “Today is beautiful” or “I feel grateful for all I have.” And take a moment to try and see it from a positive perspective when things go south. Never underestimate the value in the life of acknowledging the bright spots.
Start celebrating small triumphs.
Life is full of ups and downs, but we have several small wins that go unnoticed in between. To celebrate these small victories, take a moment.
Did you cross off all the things on your to-do list that you’ve been procrastinating on? Yay!-Yay! Have you cleaned out a thousand emails filling your inbox? Woohoo!-Wow! Take joy from these little successes. They’re adding up!
Find the balance between work and life.
The job takes up a great deal of our day, but it’s not meant to be the only thing we do. Beyond our jobs, it’s important to pursue activities and interests. Have you got a hobby? Are you spending time with loved ones and friends? Are you exercising? It will alleviate stress and give you other ways to express yourself and have fun by creating harmony in your life.
Mindfulness works by bringing the present moment to your consciousness and focus. It’s about being nonjudgmental and knowing how you are feeling. Practicing mindfulness involves being aware, alert, and curious. Accepting what we go through reduces tension and encourages us to see conditions for what they are. We may find harmony and confidence in ourselves through mindfulness.
Try to be creative.
You may think of musicians as being moody and sad, but studies show that it actually brings you joy to participate in artistic activities on a regular basis. There is more passion for those who spend some time using their creativity and becoming imaginative and are more likely to have feelings of long-term satisfaction and well-being. Writing, painting, drawing and musical performance may involve such artistic activities.
All of us are trying to reach perfection—we want to drive ourselves to be our best. Yet you have to accept the imperfections that are part of life to be genuinely content. Perfection is elusive, and it’s pointless to keep ourselves and others to these norms. We’re still going to end up feeling let down. Accept that life is imperfect and understand that in that imperfection, there is beauty and grace.
Just love what you do.
Maintaining happiness is pretty hard if you hate your work. Don’t waste the best years of a joyless career in your life, even if it’s paying your bills. What is it that concerns you? What genuinely are you passionate about? Focus on developing a career in an environment that motivates you and gives you a high degree of fulfillment, and the happiness factor will increase exponentially.